The drama update

As predicted my father cracked (read: started drinking heavily) so yesterday evening I had to move my mother to my grandfather to make sure she’s getting the minimal care she needs. That’s a warm place to rest, food and medication - 3 things my “dear” father failed to provide after less than a week of soberness. All this after the horrific scene he made when wanted to place my mother at my grandfather’s place right after we took her out of the hospital. However for the moment I have no next step planned.

How’s this for a drama? Not too bad, eh? Actually it’s bad, really bad and I’m so sick of the whole situation I can’t even begin to explain… :(

Banner boom

Two days ago I moved the hosting and delivery of all the advertising I publish on my sites to OpenX Hosted. The results are easily visible on the chart below:

OpenX Hosted - Statistics widget screenshot

Boom! I’ve been using OpenX since the days it was called phpAdsNew and I was very satisfied with it except one thing… So I was enthusiastic when I found out that I could offload my server from the burden of serving the ads and calculating the statistics.

To be fair and because I’m naturally curious I tried one other ad hosting and delivery solution: Google Ad Manager, but it was so cryptic and full of special terminology that I’ve sort of got lost and disappointed. I abandoned the product after painfully setting up an ad delivery by closely following several pages of instructions just to find out it didn’t do what I wanted it to. The last straw was when I noticed that updates made to my stuff appear delayed. And not by a few seconds, but by a few freakin’ long minutes. Maybe if I’d have an ad delivery specialist diploma on my wall I’d be using Ad Manager, but until then I want something made for web people.

So, OpenX Hosted it is.

Lucian Marin, graphic designer

The title is obviously a pun, as someone is so obsessed with SEO… :-)

I helped my friend Luci with his site’s redesign. As in XHTML & CSS by your’s truly. It was a simple and pleasant job, unfortunately interrupted several times by my recent problems and inherent laziness. But the good news is that it’s ready now. At least the homepage…


Lucian Marin - Website screenshot

Clicking on the image above will take you to his site. Plus I have the full version of the above screenshot archived for eternity, so we’ll always know how the site looked on January the 30th, 2009.

PS. Resize those damn goodies images!

A less bitter update

My mum is getting better. Slowly, with baby steps, but she’s getting better.

After on Tuesday evening I cried while visiting her because she started talking weird once again and my father was complaining that she doesn’t want to eat and cooperate with the therapist, the day before yesterday my father called me and I could hear the smile in his voice when he said: “wait, your mother will come to the phone and talk with you”. And I could hear the change in her voice and it was nothing short of miraculous. From one day to another she went from crazy talk to normal talk and she said she’s very happy with the therapist, and that she’s very glad that she’s being helped and put back on her feet. Finally some good news!

Yesterday evening I visited them and indeed she was much better. Which in turn made me feel much better.

A bitter update

The new year came. And with it one of the worst things in my life.

Not exactly on the new year’s eve but on the 11th of January we hospitalized my mother. Diagnosis: stroke. She got out of the hospital last Friday (the 23rd of January) and now she’s home again. What makes me very sad is that I don’t know how well she’ll recover. From what I read and have been told I know that there are no full recoveries for stroke victims and I’m not expecting a miracle either but I’m sort of holding on to the hope that she’ll be better than she is now, 2 weeks after that unfortunate day.

Regular readers of this blog might be thinking that I’m sort of a cool kid who (to approximately quote Kit) snowboards and DJs all day and does all those awesome things with those gadgets and RC gizmos. And all this is sort of true, except that I’m no DJ, I only own a site dedicated to electronic music, but what’s also true is that my family life closely resembles a train wreck. At the root of everything there’s an alcoholic father and it’s all downhill from there. At least one of my earliest blog entries had a reference to this fact but after that I sort of shut up, being too embarassed to expose my family’s dirty underwear on the Internet.

As I said it was all downhill in the last years for the two of them. I moved away in 2004 to find some sort of peace and back then working conditions for my freelancing act which were heavily endagered the moment my dad came home into retirement. After moving to Baia Mare I sort of ignored all the signs that not everything is good up in Baia Sprie. Things were actually quite bad. In the summer of 2006 my mother had a heart attack caused directly by him and one of his alcohol fueled escapades. But she recovered well and only found out later that she had the attack. Anyway, she went to Cluj-Napoca to treat herself and everything was good because her brain was functioning normally and she knew what to do. Unfortunately it is not the case now and I suddenly woke up as the expected caretaker - whom everyone expects to do miracles and save the situation. And all this is a bit too much for me.

The situation is in a truly fragile balance at home as my father is taking care of her. But who knows how long he’ll endure to stay sober and I don’t want to think of what comes after that.

And the thought that I might never talk with her as with the person that she was tears my heart apart…

Here’s a photo of some better times - just three months ago:

Me, my mum and dad

PS. This is by far my most personal entry.